This post is sponsored by Melt.
We popped the carrier out of the car and walked into the day care center. It was nice, clean. The staff was friendly. The children seemed happy. But we couldn’t shake that feeling. We just couldn’t leave her. We couldn’t do it.
That day we decided we were going to downsize to a one-income family. One of us would quit our jobs and stay home with our newborn daughter. We looked at our finances and our career paths and decided that it would make the most sense if I continued to work and he stayed home.
It wasn’t a decision we took lightly. He was about to quit his well-paying job and go from managing an entire store and a bunch of employees to learning how to manage a 12-week-old.
We were judged; why wouldn’t I, as the mom, stay home with our child? How could I let my husband quit his job? Mr. Mom, they’d say.
But the sacrifices he made for our family would be the best gift he could give to me and our daughter (and eventually our son).
I needed to find a way to thank him.
I’d buy him little gifts, symbols of how I felt for him. But that didn’t resonate. I bought more. Still nothing. Then my mom told me about the 5 love languages and it was at that moment that a light bulb went off.
Gifts are my love language. When he surprises me with flowers, I feel loved. When he buys me a pair of my favorite designer shoes (on a deep, deep discount), I feel loved. When he lets me sleep in and wakes up with the kids (gift of sleep), I feel loved.
So how does he feel loved? I picked up the book my mom referred to and decided to dig in. Another light bulb flickered as I read further. Touch. His was touch, and a mixture of “acts of service” as well.
I needed to speak his love language. I needed to show him how much I love him, and what better time than Father’s Day (after the kids are asleep). I never truly appreciated all he did for me until I witnessed all he does for our kids. And for that reason, this man deserves to feel loved.
3 Steps to Make Your Husband Feel Special
1. Send him on a scavenger hunt. (download these free printables) Lay them around the house that day – in the car, near his coffee cup, on the bathroom toilet, wherever you know that he’ll see them.
2. Lead him to a bottle…of massage oil. Let him know that once the kids are asleep, you can’t wait to get your hands on him.
3. Make him Melt with a massage.
Don’t know how to master the technique of massage? I didn’t either (and my husband asks me for a back rub nearly every night, so you’d think I’d look into this sooner). That’s where Melt: Massage for Couples comes into play. Melt is a massage video series for couples created by Denis Merkas, an Australian professional masseur who’s been practicing for over 15 years, and has had his hands on some pretty big names – Peirce Brosnan, Pearl Jam, James Earl Jones, Jared Leto, Alice in Chains, Pussy Cat Dolls to name a few!
He wanted to share his techniques so that others couples could enjoy the same connection that he and his wife had developed through massage, so he began a series of live workshops that eventually evolved into a video series in 2014.
The series is broken down into what I call video “snacks,” or a series of short, easy to follow video clips. This guy knows what he’s talking about. Each video ranges from around 1 – 5 minutes and you can watch them sequentially or one technique at a time. In case you’re thinking, I’m supposed to pay to watch someone intimately massage someone else?, I get it because I thought the same thing, but these videos are quite tasteful – no nudity, no awkward moments.
About Melt: Massage for Couples Videos
- Learn how to use your hands properly so they don’t tire out or get sore
- Videos included a myriad of techniques, enough for a year’s worth of clever date ideas at home – no babysitter required!
- Discover professional grade massage strokes
- Play on any device, laptop, tablet, Smart TV, mobile, etc. (instant access)
- These techniques are still being used between Denis and his wife Emma in their own relationship
- It’s not just about the massage, it’s also about:
- Spending quality time together
- Speaking to your partner’s love language
- Learning something new
- Sharing a new experience (getting out of the day to day routine)
- When you’re massaging each other, it’s not possible to talk about issues like the mortgage, children, or work. It’s about living in the moment, connecting, and clearing both of your minds.
The Basic Series: This series starts with correcting some of the most common massage mistakes and showing you the foundations of your massage with long, sweeping strokes. Each short video features a technique or tip and ends with a 5-minute follow-along massage routine.
The Highlights Series: This is where things start to get really good! You learn to look for the sore spots on each others bodies and how to work them – the neck, shoulders, lower back, arms, and head. After you learn the 9 techniques from this series and have access to a 15-minute massage routine to follow along as you’re massaging your partner.
The Deep Tissue Series: So many people (including me) love Deep Tissue and a lot of pressure, but it shouldn’t by over-emphasized. Denis leaves these tips to the very end for good reason. It ends with a 30-minute massage routine to follow along with your partner.
SPECIAL OFFER
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How are you spoiling your child’s father this Father’s Day?
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